Here are more simple and effective advices that will help you develop an excellent relationship with your children:
1. Let your children overhear you while they are in other rooms in the house, as you say loud how much you love them and how much you are proud of them.
2. Have a family lunch at least once a week and discuss last week's matters. Do not just listen but participate by telling them what happened to you last week as well. Islam encourages eating together.
3. Kiss your children, hug them and tell them that you love them everyday. Regardless the number of times you say it, they will always need to know your love for them in every stage of their lives. Even when they are married and have their own children. The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam was exceedingly affectionate with his children and grandchildren, as well as other children.
4. Try to begin a new day whenever the sun rises and forget all the past's mistakes as each new day carries a new opportunity to love your children more than before and discover more talents in them. The Sahaaba are described as people with clean hearts, not holding grudges against people nor holding their past mistakes against them.
5. Instead of saying to your son when scolding him: ‘you’ve done this wrong’' say: ‘why don't you do it this way?’' and teach him the right way. The Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used a lot of wisdom in correcting people’s wrongs.
Bonding with your Child Part 3
